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Hi! I am Michael Heath and this is the Pine Ridge Pastoral Counseling Web Page. Pine Ridge is a place for folks who are looking for the best mental health care but who are turned off by large clinics or impersonal facilities.
Since 1994, Pine Ridge has offered a distinctive and more personal alternative for mental health needs while providing a comprehensive range of psychological services to help individuals, couples and families deal with a wide range of emotional, relational, crisis related, life phase and spiritual problems.
Since I am both a state Licensed Psychotherapist and a nationally Certified Pastoral Counselor, I offer a comprehensive therapeutic approach which can relate to both the psychological and spiritual dimensions of life’s difficulties .
This web site is a great place to learn about my areas of expertise and to find answers to questions you may have concerning psychotherapy, marriage counseling, couples counseling, and other counseling related issues. If you can’t find what you’re looking for, please contact me and I’ll be glad to help.
Helping the people of Central New York since 1978 with:
- ANXIETY / DEPRESSION / OCD
- PTSD / SEXUAL ABUSE
- STRESS MANAGEMENT
- OBSESSIONS / COMPULSIONS
- LOSS AND GRIEVING
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- SHAME / GUILT / LOW SELF-ESTEEM
- POOR COUPLE COMMUNICATION
- ARGUMENTS / CONFLICT
- SEX / NO SEX
- PORNOGRAPHY / SEX ADDICTION
- BETRAYAL / INFIDELITY
- SEPARATION / DIVORCE
- MONEY / KIDS / INLAWS
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By Rev. Michael Heath
A.I. in Perspective
It’s not an exaggeration to say that artificial intelligence (AI) has become a dominant force in modern culture. What started out as simple things, like speech-to-text software, has become a mind-boggling technology that can not only analyze data but also solve problems and produce images and videos that are almost indistinguishable from actual recordings.
And there is the rub. We’ve all seen them – those cute videos of animals doing heartwarming things. (I love the one where the elephant plays with the baby giraffe and sprays it with its trunk. Facebook.)
Despite their charm, virtual productions have the potential to create a serious dilemma. They make it difficult to distinguish what is real from what is not.
Deep Fakes and Not Knowing What is Real
While it may not matter that an elephant does not really play with a giraffe, a video showing a person doing something that they did not do could have serious consequences.
In addition, AI-generated images and recordings exacerbate the already serious problem of misinformation which pervades the internet and social media.
This technology complicates the difficult task of accurate news reporting. Beyond journalism, however, fraudulent AI creations create false impressions in public perception or beliefs.
It is a characteristic of human nature to seek thrills. Thus, many people are susceptible to sensational misinformation and seek it out. Likewise, the news media understand this appetite and, in order to satisfy their viewers, often run stories that are unlikely to be true.
It’s essential to recognize that the media’s content influences us. Misrepresentations or unsubstantiated stories often receive more attention than they deserve. Due to their presence in the media, they appear to be real. In doing so, they create a problem of public perception. By exploiting their audience, the media stokes skepticism and further mistrust of the media.
Besides the media, politicians play on and use misinformation to promote fears and win elections. (Consider the exaggerated claims of the threats undocumented immigrants posed.)
Apart from politics, the exaggerated threats that AI-aided misinformation creates can exacerbate anxiety and depressive conditions. Apart from those with diagnoses, outrageous stories stoke paranoia and irrational fears in ordinary people who don’t normally suffer from anxiety and depression. Online Misinformation | Pastoral Counseling Syracuse NY
Recent Example of Deep Fakes
Incredibly, A.I. has taken online misinformation to a whole new level, to the point where discerning what is accurate and legitimate from what is fraudulent is extremely difficult. Photographic and video deep-fakes, as they’re called, can make real people say or do anything.
Recently, a video of NBC weatherman Al Roker deep-faked him, pitching a worthless anti-hypertension device. Deepfake video of Al Roker selling blood pressure device emerges
Additionally, an AI-generated audio of Senator Marco Rubio was sent out fraudulently, posing as him.
Even worse is when an AI “thinks” on its own. Recently, X’s chatbot, Grok, spewed an anti-semitic slur. AI chatbot Grok issues apology for antisemitic posts – NBC Los Angeles
It’s no secret that media outlets sensationalize the news to attract viewers. In doing so, many of its stories are exaggerated, which then creates fear and panic. Fear and panic take away a person’s ability to rationally assess and determine the validity of the images they see.
Despite the challenges, we must not give up or give in to the lies. Here are some tips to help you sort the grain from the chaff:
Rethinking Foregiveness
What comes to mind when you hear the word forgiveness ?
When one is betrayed or treated unjustly, it’s normal to feel anger and resentment. Sometimes, however, the initial reaction doesn’t go away and the ill feelings can disrupt relationships and get in the way with living.
Religion and moral teachings have taught us that when a person is wronged, they should forgive. Indeed, forgiveness is not only the right thing to do, but it is also good for our physical and mental health. Forgiveness | Psychology Today
Ironically, in spite of it benefits, for many folks, forgiveness is difficult to do. That’s unfortunate because not forgiving and holding a grudge is detrimental to both our mental and physical health. The Destructive Power of Resentment | Master’s Counselling Calgary
Specifically, unrelenting resentment elevates cortisol levels, which correlate to increased emotional problems such as irritability, depression, and stress. Likewise, it’s not secret that unchecked stress levels can lead to a number of serious physical disorders How Holding a Grudge Can Hurt You
Why would something that is so obviously good be so hard to achieve? Part of the reason forgiving is so difficult is that much of what we have been lead to believe about it is false.
For example, according to Google, forgiveness is ” a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you…”
Wrong . Understanding forgiveness as an intentional decision misconstrues its reality. It assumes that one is able to forgive when, in fact, they may not be. Psychology sees forgiveness as a complex process and is not a simple decision at all. Let me explain:
Violence in the News
Recently, the news has been filled with so much violence that it’s impossible to shrug it off. As the reports from the Israeli/Iran war grow more disturbing each day, breaking news screams the shocking details of the Minnesota shootings.
Although most people aren’t directly affected by these events, the non-stop media coverage wears away our indifference and increases our anxiety. Indeed, a number of recent studies reveal that extended exposure to tragic news reports can cause PTSD-like symptoms.
PTSD-by-proxy includes nightmares, difficulty concentrating, increased anxiety and recurrent flashbacks of disturbing video and still images. Media Exposure and the Risk of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Following a Mass traumatic Event: An In-silico Experiment – PMC
Coupled with other brain research, it’s becoming clear that vicarious exposure to trauma can create neuro-pathway damage consistent with what is experienced by deployed soldiers or other trauma victims. This new evidence also provides clues for treating those who are affected by shocking stories in the media.
An update about trauma
Some people wonder how simply seeing something on television or the internet can cause symptoms that are similar to those experienced by those who actually lived through an actual trauma.
Recently, studies have expanded our understanding of what constitutes trauma. We now know that trauma does not have to be physical to be harmful or even directly experienced. Exposure to vivid accounts of trauma can have a similar impact on our emotions as an actual experience.
Tips for Coping
Fortunately, there are several effective tools anyone can employ to reduce the disruptive impact of panic reactions.
The key to dealing with a PTSD reaction is to, first, calm the panic and restore the neuro-pathways to the parts of our brain which can think. Only then can we accurately assess the seriousness of the immediate perceptions and discern from prior experience what response should be made.
Here is a brief list of things to try if you are having problems coping with the news: Coping with the Absurd and the Horrifying Stories in the News | PastoralCounseling Syracuse NY
Counseling: An Update.
Over the years, attitudes about counseling as well as counseling itself have changed. While the stigma connected to counseling may have declined, many misconceptions about it still endure.
In addition, new research has brought significant change to both how we understand and treat emotional problems.
Today, I want to update your understanding and answer some common questions that many folks have about psychotherapy.
AGING and DENIAL
Recently, the release of the audio recording of Special Counsel Robert Hur’s interview of Joe Biden exposed, in painful detail, evidence of the president’s cognitive decline. Biden’s Interview With Hur Confirms What Many Suspected – The New York Times
The tape confirmed what critics of the president had previously alleged. Likewise, it raised a firestorm and accusations of a cover-up. Republicans claimed that Democratic leadership conspired to keep his failing mental status from the American people.
As big as this story has been, I believe its real significance lies elsewhere. Indeed, Joe Biden’s decline shines a spotlight on the larger issue of age-related cognitive decline.
Hopefully, the president’s situation can be a wake-up call for America. We must start talking about this universal human problem: How to understand and deal with age-related cognitive decline that’s gone too far.
Due to its emotionally painful nature, talking about and confronting cognitive decline is often avoided. Here are some thoughts concerning this difficult topic.
Connecting Momments
I’ve been a counselor since 1978 but I have never seen anything like what has been going on over the past few months. People are calling me in the midst of panic, worrying that they are going crazy.
Fortunately, most often, a brief examination of their situation reveals that they are quite sane. Their panic is the result of being overwhelmed by non-stop media-hyped crises.
Specifically, people are freaking out over the impact of Donald Trump’s tariffs and Elon Musk’s chainsaw cuts.
I’m wondering if my experience as a therapist is a symptom indicative of a larger cultural problem ?
Cultural and Technological Stressors
Apart from the scary content of the news, there are two underlying factors that, taken together, explain why the news causes so much distress. 1) the decline of social connections and 2) the growing impact of distressing news delivered non-stop via smartphones.
Urbanization, characterized by declining religious and social groups, has weakened traditional social structures. Likewise, internet technology has reduced person-to-person connections. When combined, these changes have left us feeling less supported and more anxious. Americans Are Socializing Less—Is It Making Us Unhappy? – Newsweek
As our social supports have diminished, the volume of distressing news has increased. Instead of getting our news from Chet Huntley on the Six O’clock News, smartphones and computers bombard us with information throughout the day and night.
The internet and social media overwhelm people with more information than they can process. While life has always been challenging, changes in society and technology have made coping dramatically more difficult.
To make matters worse, the rhetoric in political and social media discourse has become uncivil and abusive. Profanity-laden political comments and unfiltered social media posts have increased polarization, mistrust, and emotional agitation.
Given these changes, it’s no wonder that, when disturbed by unsettling headlines, folks who have fewer places to turn for support feel more stressed.
Taking everything together, it is not surprising that a lot of people feel more depressed and anxious and less able to cope with everyday stressors.
Increasing Social Connection
With all of this in mind, what can we do ? Since May is Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s important to understand that psychotherapy, in addition to treating psychological disorders, also helps people to cope with difficult life stressors.
Besides effective stress-management techniques, people also need a human connection to manage their emotional distress. Fortunately, there is a simple way to experience social connection. While we can’t change culture, it is possible to create brief moments of social connection that can provide a needed lift .. BEING PRESENT | Pastoral Counseling Syracuse, NY
For example, the next time you’re standing at the produce section at the grocery store, waiting in line at the bank, or checking out at Target, you have an opportunity to engage someone and have a connecting moment.
Finding these moments makes you feel good and is also a gift for the other person. Here are the simple steps you can use to help you feel more connected and help someone else, too.
Easter: a Soulful View
With Easter upon us, many take time to reflect on its enduring meaning. For Christians, Easter commemorates the resurrection of Jesus. Apart from Christianity, Easter celebrates the arrival of spring as new life emerges from the death of winter.
In past segments, I’ve written about Easter as a metaphor( Easter as Psychological Metaphor: The Resurrection of Hope and Meaning. | Pastoral Counseling Syracuse NY).
Today, I want us to look at the Easter story, not from a specific theological point of view but from a more inclusive spiritual one that expresses a longing from deep within the human psyche. Easter and Mental Health – Church and Mental Health
THE RESURRECTION STORY
We all know the basics about Jesus’s birth, life, death, and resurrection, viz. he was a man born of a virgin’s union with God, preached love and worked miracles, was crucified, placed in a tomb and, after three days, rose again.
For Christians, based on Biblical text, the resurrection proves both Jesus’s divinity and that faith in Him brings eternal life. Interestingly, these same elements are found in other pagan religions and myths.
Anti-Trans Myths
Recently, I saw a meme (below) that stopped me cold. It deepened my awareness of how vulnerable gay and trans teens are. Worse, it underscored how deadly anti-gay/trans rhetoric and policies can be. The Trevor Project – Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Young People
To be clear, higher suicide rates for gay and trans individuals are not innate. They are directly related to a culture that is non-accepting and abusive. Facts About Suicide Among LGBTQ+ Young People
Despite the gains made for marriage equality, attacks on sexually diverse individuals have recently increased. Specifcally, political rhetoric and discriminatory policies target transgendered people.
It is crucial to understand that the attacks against trans individuals are based on false notions and outright lies. Health Misinformation Monitor: Falsehoods About Transgender People and Gender Affirming Care | KFF
Even though the medical community debunks the lies, politicians and social media continue to spread them. In this highly charged environment, politically hyped paranoia undermines respect for medical science. gay rights | Pastoral Counseling Syracuse NY
Even so, people who support equal rights for sexually diverse citizens must not give up or give in. Given the potential harm, we must continue to confront each false claim as it arises.
To begin, let’s be clear about some basic terms:
— Transgender is an umbrella term for persons whose gender identity, gender expression or behavior does not conform to that typically associated with the sex to which they were assigned at birth.
— Sex has to do with physical sex characteristics.
— Gender refers to the cultural roles of males and females.
— Sexual orientation refers to what sex sexually arouses you. Answers to your questions about transgender people, gender identity, and gender expression
With these in mind, here are some of the most false claims that are used to discredit and malign transgendered individuals.
Affirmations & Self-Esteem
Many people have poor self-esteem. Likewise, many believed that repeating self-affirmations was a way to improve one’s self-regard. Of course, everyone wants and needs self-affirmation, but it is overrated as a therapeutic technique.
Self-affirmation was a big deal in pop psychology 30 years ago. Bookstores and novelty shops promoted it with posters and T-shirts featuring affirming platitudes. Likewise, business offices posted them prominently in waiting areas.
While there is nothing wrong with ego-boosting messages, the value of simply repeating them to yourself is limited. Remember comedian Al Franken? He lampooned and exposed the fallacy of this craze through his SNL character, Stuart Smalley, who began each day by reciting empty self-affirmations.
While, internet apps have pretty much replaced posters, the emphasis is still pretty much the same. SELF: Self-Care & Self-Love – Apps on Google Play Although, self-affirmations are not a bad thing, they can’t take the place of psychotherapy to repair significant self-esteem issues.
Today, I want to review some basic facts about self-esteem and explain how recent research in neuroscience has increased our understanding of how self-esteem can be damaged and why it is so difficult to repair. Within that context, the legitimate place of affirmations can be better appreciated.
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